When I first arrived in France, I thought that conducting business would be stiff, overly formal, and honestly a little cold, probably because I had heard that French people could be rude or unwelcoming. But as with many first impressions, that turned out to be completely false. What I actually discovered was a culture that values kindness, patience, and most importantly, connection.
One of the first things I learned is that saying bonjour is a must. It’s not just a polite habit, but it’s how you show respect and set the tone for any interaction. Whether it’s in a business setting, a store, or simply passing someone on the street, acknowledging people with a simple greeting goes a long way. It shows that you recognize them as a person, not just a transaction.
I also noticed how meals play a big role in professional relationships. Meals are not rushed here. You sit down, share food, and take time to really talk, not just about business, but about life, interests, and values. This slower pace is very different from what I’m used to in the U.S., where meetings are often fast and straight to the point. But in France, building trust comes first. Business decisions follow after relationships are built.
This experience has completely changed my perspective. I used to subconsciously believe that American norms were the default and that American culture was somehow “standard.” But living abroad, I’ve realized that every place has its own rhythm, its own values, and its own way of doing things. At the same time, there are similarities too. People everywhere value connection, kindness, and being heard.
My time in Europe has taught me not just about cultural differences, but about the importance of humility and curiosity. I’ve realized how much there is to gain by stepping outside of what’s familiar and truly engaging with other ways of life.